How can we honestly express ourselves when we fear that others will think less of us? How can we be true to our heart when we fear the reactions of those that we would like to be truthful to? This is a perfect time to be conscious of a new way of dealing with old situations that no longer serve a purpose in just a few new, simple steps.
"Respond with sensitivity and human warmth to the hopes, and communications of all. Such kindness, can change your life forever." - Tony Samara -
There is no purpose in creating fear or anger within ourselves or others. There is no purpose in bringing our heart to a space where joy and light fade into the mundane disappointments and disillusionments that are inevitable when we go down a well-trodden path that leads to nowhere. However, there is a purpose to practice what it means to be free and conscious. The purpose being that we give less of who we are to the old and move forward to a space that is uniquely in this moment, by focusing on the joy and freedom of what it means to be conscious of the parts of ourselves that make us uniquely human. We need to be clear that the old burden no longer needs to be our paradigm, but rather that we have a focus on birthing the new light forever inside of our heart. Imagine making everyone joyous by changing the structure of confrontational situations! Some people do not like it when people confront them, or when there is a situation that requires a confrontation as the best way to proceed, and prefer to run away from all such issues. Instead of looking at confrontation as a challenge that will cause pain, and therefore continuing to practice old ways of avoiding the issue, we can utilise our heartfelt communication in a new way. Choose to take a deep breath, relax all the muscles in the body and focus on the love and consciousness that comes from the space of being in this moment. Choose harmonious consciousness, rather than get caught up in the ideas of pain, which are simply based on belief systems from the past, and ideas of possible painful futures, rather than the unique presence of this actual moment. Joyous communication is the way. With every aspect of communication, express the joy of what it means to be able to move through this wonderful lesson to a space that brings us closer to the joy of being in deep communication with other wonderful human beings. Instead of pretending nothing is wrong, or escaping into old patterns and belief systems, which often blow things out of proportion, there are some easy steps we can take to transcend our old selves. The first step is to completely center ourselves, without uttering any words. Take a few deep breaths and calm your body into a normal, relaxed state. Take a few moments to analyse what it is that the body is actually feeling in this moment. Notice especially the shoulders, the jaws, the thighs, and the mouth. If they are not relaxed, take a few more moments to consciously feel that these parts of the body are engulfed with the warm sensation of love. The next step is to observe what the communication is really about. Most of us get caught up in the feelings that are triggered by a communication and hence communicate from the feelings that are triggered, rather than the actual communication. This is called projection, and such communication asks others to react to our projection, as in this way, we can continue a vicious circle of understanding our pain rather than finding freedom and consciousness in each situation. This may mean dropping criticism, judgment, subtle provocations and sarcasms, expectations, blaming, causing pain or whatever mechanisms, which we normally use to become the pain. When we are in this free space of observation, we can create thinking that becomes more intelligent and better able to express our deeper communications, which always contain love, compassion, joy and kindness. Trust and connect with this depth of consciousness and express and affirm in a positive way, what is wanted from this depth rather than what is not wanted. Make sure that the affirmations are not demands and that they create a space of open embracement that allows everyone to feel the joy of this communication. Make sure that all communications give rather than take, as giving only comes from a space of abundance and consciousness. From such actions we are giving ourselves opportunities that only come when we are able to hear the wisdom, not only in ourselves but in all that is around. What a wonderful reality to affirm in all our communications so that every aspect of life becomes more real, more human and more full of compassion for ourselves and all living beings. |